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Are there places i can go to learn and practice how to make women squirt?
Sarah: AGAIN?! Ok, for the last time: squirting is not some indication of the intensity or quality of the orgasm. You know what’s weird to me about this obsession? That so many men think the apogee of sexual achievement lies in making a vagina do what a dick does. And then within that, the greatest achievement is making someone soak their headboard from the foot of the bed. Here’s a hot tip: instead of putting all this pressure on one overhyped outcome of sexual stimulation, why not channel that interest into learning how to make your girl orgasm multiple times? Making a woman squirt does not mean you have achieved some higher level of sexual prowess, especially if that’s the only “move” you’ve been working on for years. Instead, I’ll defer to Louis CK here: if you fucked her right, she won’t want to talk—in fact, she won’t want to do anything but sleep. Forget about the squirting and learn how to make a lady sleep.
Dr. Debby: There are books and, some places, workshops but I don’t recommend it. Based on several scientific studies by different teams of researchers, squirting appears to be the release of large amounts of diluted urine which is different than female ejaculation which is the release of smaller amounts of fluid more like prostate fluid. Some of the squirting lessons I’ve seen recommend pushing down on the pelvic floor muscles, which is generally not considered advisable as we want to keep theme strong and not possibly stress or weaken them. To learn more about these issues check out The G Spot: And Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality (for some of the classic research and early descriptions). And if you’re really into the science of it, a recent “early view” article in the Journal of Sexual Medicine sums up the latest research on so-called “squirting” versus female ejaculation. All that said, squirting isn’t a bad thing - many women experience it and they and their partners may enjoy it quite a bit. It happens to many women naturally without any pushing motion needed. The part I’m cautioning about is the motion of pushing or straining the pelvic floor muscles, which is what too many of the lessons I’ve seen focus on.