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My dude and I have sex every day. I’m not complaining about or questioning that. The ONE downside is we have so much sex that I sometimes get a little skin irritation (I have really sensitive skin) from the wet/dry cycle. A friend suggested rubbing some oil-based moisturizer down there to create a barrier before the act. What are your suggestions?
Sarah: If, wherever you are, dear reader, you heard the tinny, barely-audible squeak of a tiny violin, that was me playing a sad song for you and your chapped, orgasmically-glowing thighs. For a moment, though, I will put away my stank face and answer as a once-knowledgeable skincare “expert” of sorts. What I would do is just try to reduce all other skin irritation you might be adding to it, like fragrance in lotions or laundry products, hot showers and baths, and excessively surfactant body washes. Now you’ve got to start treating your basement with the same care and attention as your living room (your face, in this metaphor—stay with me). That means you’re switching to a fragrance-free moisturizing body wash (bonus if it contains oatmeal, a cheap and highly effective skin soother) and a hypoallergenic body moisturizer (Cetaphil is a good bet here and has been recommended to me by multiple dermatologists). And, as Debby will soon say, it’s never a bad idea to check in with a dermatologists if you can afford it.
Debby: It could be worth a try, but do try to keep oil-based products away from your vaginal canal as some people are more irritated by them. I would encourage you instead to check in with a dermatologist (yes, dermatologists care for genital skin and tissue, too, not just skin elsewhere on the body). People with sensitive skin often need to be careful with what they slather on their genitals, and a dermatologist might have a particularly good suggestion for you. He or she can also examine your skin and make sure that the irritation isn’t coming from something else entirely, such as irritation to bath or laundry products or a lubricant you may be using, and so on.