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My gentleman friend and I have very vigorous sex (which I enjoy) but sometimes I find that I get a little tender in that neighborhood after a particularly raucous and long night. Is this normal? I just want to make sure it’s not a sign of something bigger. What is “normal” vaginal pain versus bad pain? Would more lube help the situation?
Sarah: Oh hey, it’s our first contender for Sex Doc Humblebrag Champion of 2015. Get some lube and stop grinning so much. We get it, you’re having better sex than us.
Debby: It’s very common for rough sex to lead to a tender, sore vagina. If you’re fine with that, then okay. If you’d rather not be so sore, then use water-based or silicone-based lubricant (water-based tends to be thicker but silicone-based lasts longer) and/or ask for a more gentle pace more of the time.