Do you have any music recommendations for good sexy music?
— Anonymous, from Tumblr
Sarah: God bless Spotify, the gift to lazy DJs everywhere. They’ve already got you covered here with a really nice Sexy Beats playlist. That’s if you like things a little more electronic. You could also go with a deep house kind of mix, any record from the Cool Jazz era of you want it to be really classy, or maybe a little Brazilian bossa nova. The long and the short of it is a persistent but gentle beat, some nice atmospheric sound of some kind and something that still sounds good at a low volume. You want to be able to hear, but it should be what people in the radio biz call “bed music” rather than an all-consuming music video vibe (unless you’re into that cinematic, out-of-body effect in your sex). Personally, I find that too loud music makes the whole thing seem weirdly performative, or maybe I just really like to dance. Anyway, just play Banks or Van Hunt.
Debby: Since people have such widely diverse music tastes, I’m not sure I can recommend one band or musician over another. Some people don’t even want to hear music during sex but would be fine with it as part of a sexy night (like while making or eating dinner). If you’re out with someone you’re into, try to choose a live music spot where you can get to talk with one another (if you’re trying to get to know one another) or dance with one another (if the connection you’re looking for is more physical). Music, like sex, is a bit instinctual and I suspect you’ll figure it out.