Improve your sex life by getting that burning question answered by one of the world's foremost experts on sex, Dr. Debby Herbenick of Indiana University's Kinsey Institute. Submit anonymously here!My mother told me that she wants me to sleep in her bed with her until my step dad comes home from overseas,next year! We have become very close these last few months since he left us alone together. Lately,she has been acting more and more flirtatious towards me,even walking around the house wearing next to nothing! What should I do?
Sarah: Back in high school, we had this tennis coach that set off everyone’s creep alarm within a hundred-mile radius of Evansville, Indiana. About a month into his tenure, he began acting strangely, touching some players inappropriately or showing up extremely addled with food stains all down the front of his shirt. He started being increasingly flirtatious and forward with women around him. He even grabbed the thigh of one of the teenage employees of the tennis club where we practiced, right in front of the team. About a month later, he was dead from a massive brain tumor that had been pressing on his frontal lobe, likely interfering with his “behavior filter” so to speak. The point is, assuming this is real (doubt it), either your mom is so lonely she has lost all contact with interpersonal boundaries or she has something medically wrong with her that’s affecting her rational decision making structures. So here, after you have many times over shouted at her to put her fucking clothes on and straighten up right this minute, I’d go with either a knitting circle, book club, or an MRI.
Dr. Debby: If this is a real email (rather than a fake or fantasy email which it sounds a little more like) then I would suggest not sleeping in her bed which puts you in a vulnerable and awkward position and, assuming you are an adult, staying at your own place. If you are a teenager, talk with an adult you trust such as a school counselor or an aunt or uncle as this behavior is not appropriate. You can also tell her that her behavior makes you uncomfortable. You can say things like “Mom, put your clothes on” or “Mom, you’re making me feel really uncomfortable”.