Sportsheets for Sportfucks

 

Improve your sex life by getting that burning question answered by one of the world's foremost experts on sex, Dr. Debby Herbenick of Indiana University's Kinsey Institute. Submit anonymously here!

How crazy am I? I have a good friend who's a woman. We are roommates and live together. We are not romantically involved in the least, and yet, every woman I've ever been romantic with has had a problem with said friend. She never does anything to compromise relationships. I chalk it up to a woman's need to emotionally dominate a relationship. In your professional opinion, is it realistic to hold out to find the woman to understand this modern situation, or should I make a permanent decision?

Sarah: Have you considered that the problem might be that you think all women are kind of the same and have not entertained the idea that your individual friend-mate sucks? Or that you pick women who will be insecure about this friendship to save yourself the vulnerability and risk of actually becoming emotionally attached to someone? Do you, in the back of your mind, have that When Harry Met Sally bullshit notion that really, you’ll eventually end up together after realizing [DRAMATIC ORCHESTRAL FLOURISH] that the reason your past relationships didn’t work is because OMFG YOU’RE MEANT TO BE?! Have you bought yourself the grandest bullshit McMansion of them all, the myth that all women naturally compete for male attention? Also, what does “not compromising” mean? Does that mean she’s respectful of your relationship boundaries or does that mean she tries to “bond” with your new romances by talking about how awkward it is when your roommate’s girlfriend comes over when she’s walking around in underwear, no bra and a tank top? (Ohmuhgawd, so awkward, right?!) Or are you taking the natural intimidation that comes with your boyfriend having an already-intimate relationship with a woman he lives with as overblown evidence of “all women’s” catty insecurity? Because, although there are many shades of triflin’ bullshit in play here, it all boils down to one of two scenarios: either you’re picking women who are preternaturally insecure, or you’re dating normal women who are picking up the scent, however faint, of a homewrecker. Figure out which it is and act accordingly.

Dr. Debby: Sarah nailed this one. 

0
0
0
0
0