Improve your sex life by getting that burning question answered by one of the world's foremost experts on sex, Dr. Debby Herbenick of Indiana University's Kinsey Institute. Submit anonymously here!What would be a good, kinda-sexy gift for a guy? I want to spice up my sex life with my guy but I don’t want to do the traditional lingerie gift.
Sarah: Sexy Saturday Gift Certificate. One whole day of round-the-house nudity and whatever comes afterward. You can even up the ante by writing “NO CLOTHES PERMITTED” on your homemade certificate, which I think is legally binding if you get the letters straight enough. Have a lawyer look at it though, just to be safe.
Dr. Debby: These things always depend on who you are and your personalities as individuals and as a couples. Naked-in-a-bed would be a great gift for a lot of people. Other people give each other books like Great in Bed or Moregasm or Position of the Day Playbook with a promise to go through and try new things together. Stocking stuffers? An old boyfriend’s dad once gave me glow in the dark massage lotion which was… well, awkward (and it remained unopened during our entire relationship since it was from HIS DAD!). Coming from you, massage lotion would have a sexier and not-awkward meaning. You could also just give him regular clothes that you think he looks sexy in; people have a way of wearing what their partner thinks they look hot in. Other gift ideas: condoms and lube (if safer sex is your thing), vibrators, a night at a hotel, an invitation to ditch work and play hooky, and free pass to try that thing together you’ve been less inclined to do but know he’s really into into (as long as you’re at least moderately into it; don’t do something that would horrify or pain you, unless pain is your thing). Frankly, just a nice day together where you’re in love and all over each other is time pretty well spent, if you ask most people. It’s nothing to take for granted. And for all of you who have been with your partner for a long time and forgotten the little things, bring back something you’ve lost: after-work massages, lingering in bed on the weekends, massaging his scalp, rubbing her feet, a lot more kissing during sex, and a lot more cuddling afterwards. Keep the intimacy and affection going; it matters.