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My ex has herpes, and she found out she got it while we were on a “break” during a recent gyno visit. After we broke up, I got tested and came up negative. Is one test enough or should I get tested again to make sure?
Sarah: If one test is sufficient (I’ll defer to Debby on that one), you should go out and buy a lottery ticket, because you are the luckiest son of a bitch on Earth. Then you should stay inside during thunderstorms and quit gambling because this is the luckiest you will ever be in your life and it’s almost certainly a transient period. Rota fortuna and all that, ya know.
Debby: One test is usually sufficient, assuming it’s been at least several weeks since you would have been exposed to the herpes virus. If you have questions about your personal risk for herpes or other STI, check in with your healthcare provider. And if at some point in the future you learn you have herpes (whether from your ex or some future partner), you might want to ask your healthcare provider about antiviral medications. If you and your ex decide to get back together, she can also take antivirals to greatly reduce the risk of passing herpes to you.