Is it ever ok to break up with someone over a text/email?
Sarah: That depends on a few factors: are you a fourteen year old with limited fucks to give or Fortune 500 CEO with limited time to give fucks? Unless you’re talking about a super short-term, 3 dates or less, dating or friends-and-bennies situation (in which case you’d be equally fine ghosting completely), this leans toward shady. Of course, we’ve all been in situations where we wandered into the romantic mire of a genuinely unstable person you can’t break up with in person. In these limited situations, the text-based breakup is acceptable. However, you get a limited number of accidental matchups with crazies before you have to acknowledge your culpability in choosing people who “force” you to take this way out. You know what they say: “Boil my bunny once, shame on you. Boil my bunny twice, shame on me.”
The long and the short of this answer is, if your relationship was substantive enough that a breakup requires some kind of communication, the very least you can do is a call. I may be old fashioned, but I think doing the breaking up in person gives both parties a chance to say their peace and walk away (hopefully). If you just want to tell someone that you had a fun first date but there’s not much spark, that’s a text conversation, if it’s a conversation at all.