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How can I get my girlfriend to cuddle a little longer after sex? She basically sprints to the bathroom the second I finish.
Sarah: Coat your entire cuddle side with honey? Talk to her, dummy! She might be grossed out by the fluid transaction that usually occurs and may want to clean up ASAP. Girl might be trying to keep herself out of UTI territory, which is totally legit. There are many reasons why she might be bolting, but you’ll never know until you ask and then tell her that you want more time to cuddle. But you will have to admit, aloud, that you like to cuddle and would like to do it more.
Dr. Debby: You might ask your girlfriend why she’s in a rush to get to the bathroom. Is she prone to urinary tract infections (UTIs) and thus peeing after sex in an effort to reduce the risk? Does having sex or having an orgasm make her feel like she has to pee? Does she feel guilty or ashamed about having sex and thus does she feel the need to shower afterwards? Do you ejaculate inside her and she’s just trying to clear it out into the toilet rather than have semen-laced sheets? These are all possible reasons but you won’t know unless you ask her. Once you have a sense of why she’s rushing to the bathroom, you can try to figure out a way around it. When you have that conversation, also let her know that you want to cuddle and spend time with her. Sometimes women are afraid to say they want to be affection after sex lest they come off as needy. Hearing from you that cuddling and connection are important to you may help her to value these aspects of sex more too.