Who should bring the condoms: the guy or the girl?
— Anonymous, from Tumblr
Sarah: That’s like saying, “I’m going to a potluck, and I want to know if the women or men should bring food?” It’s 2015! There’s no excuse not to have condoms in or around your sex-having place, for God’s sake! You can argue this any way you want, but at the end of the day, neither of you wants either an STI or an infant, so I’d bet you both have equal interest in getting a hat on that jimmy. Buy box on Amazon if you’re literally such a child that you don’t want to admit to the Walgreens cashier that you are sexually active, but just buy them if you have sex. Having condoms around isn’t some admission of promiscuity and it doesn’t “send signals” other than, “I’d prefer not to have a pox upon my genitals, thank you.”
Debby: Everyone who’s having condom-relevant sex should buy and use condoms. Take turns sharing the cost of STI protection and/or birth control, as with buying condoms, especially if you both make about the same amount of money. Condom use has been decreasing in the US in recent years and that’s pretty scary, especially as some infections (like gonorrhea) become more antibiotic-resistant and as about have of pregnancies remain unintended. And have I ever mentioned STIs like mycoplasma gentalium that there are basically no tests for (outside of research studies/labs), but that lots of people have, and that cause symptoms but usually people don’t even know they have? Yeah… condoms are the way to go. No one expects you to use them forever but we would have a far lower STI and unintended pregnancy rate if more people used them even just a month longer than they thought they should.