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Lately, I have been having trouble keeping a full erection while putting a condom on. Is this a common issue for men or is it just me?
Sarah: SO COMMON. I mean, sorry, but putting on a condom just isn’t sexy. All of a sudden, in your mind, your dick is this protrusive agent of disease and/or disease acquisition. For a second, the mystery and the passion are ushered out of the room while you get all clinical with latex and wrappers and whatnot. The thing is, you just have to see it as part of the sex act and not this thing that you pause and “have” to do. And just like you wouldn't lay on one uncomfortable mattress, shrug, buy it anyway and leave the store, you owe it to yourself to shop around a few different styles and brands until you find one that adds to your pleasure and doesn't subtract. Try different shapes and styles, with and without lube included, with different lubricants, etc. It might sound crazy, but practice putting them on when you’re alone until you get that shit down. Do it like Forrest Gump in the riflery scene and try to be the fastest condom-putter-onner in the Midwest region. Once in a while, throw one on before you masturbate, just to get yourself in the headspace that condoms and sex are part of the same act. And then enjoy!
Debby: Yes, it’s pretty common - but that doesn’t mean condoms should be a no-go. After all, getting STIs or having an unintended pregnancy are also downers. First, consider getting a condom sampler pack at a drug store, adult bookstore, or online through a shop like Condomania. Try different kinds until you find one that feels best on your penis and helps sex to feel more natural. Trojan Ecstasy is a popular one among many men. Knowing that the condom will help sex to feel better, not worse, can make even the putting-on process more pleasurable and less intimidating. Second, you might involve your partner in the process. Ask her or him to put the condom on your penis so that you can focus instead on your partner’s body or your own arousal to help enhance your erection. Finally, once the condom is on your penis, put some water-based lubricant in your hand (or as your partner to do this) and put it on your condom-covered penis… kind of like a condom-clad hand job before you move on to intercourse or oral sex or whatever you have planned next.