Improve your sex life by getting that burning question answered by one of the world's foremost experts on sex, Dr. Debby Herbenick of Indiana University's Kinsey Institute. Submit anonymously here!I’m really turned on by the idea of blindfolding my girlfriend, but I’m pretty sure my lady would be a little freaked out by the suggestion. What’s a good way to bring it up, and what’s something I can use that I already own that won’t be too intimidating?
Sarah: Sexual MacGyver! My favorite! Just go with a necktie or a sleep mask. As far as talking to her about it, you could draw her out by asking about her fantasies first. You might be surprised at how much overlap there is in your freakiness Venn diagrams. Make sure you just let her know that you’re not going to murder her while she’s got her peepers concealed.
Debby: Why not ask her? If she doesn’t like it, she can just take off the blindfold, assuming her hands are free rather than tied up or restrained. Just make sure to tell her what the second part is - as in, :I want to blindfold you and ____” because that matters. Do you want to touch her in unpredictable ways? Go down on her? Have intercourse with her? And are you generally a trustworthy, honest person who demonstrates that repeatedly? If you are not yet in a place of trust, that may matter. If you are, then she may be into it, provided you give a little more context.