I had a first date recently, and, in the course of the evening, my date went down on me. Which is good, except that, since I was sort of in the throes of pleasure at the time, I totally forgot I was on my rag. I use sea sponge tampons, and they are shorter and further back than a synthetic tampon, so there’s no way he met with that, fortunately. In fact, I don’t know that he even knows, because as soon as I remembered, I stuck my finger in my vagina and tasted it, and I don’t think it tasted bloody or anything (in fact, it tasted darn good ;) ). Obviously, the most polite thing to do at the time would have been to remember as he was working his way down my body that I should, um, not bleed in his mouth until I knew him a little better. So now I feel rude. I’m definitely going to see him again. In this situation, what should I do? If he did think it tasted bad (or merely strange and iron-y), I don’t want him to think I taste that way all the time and so never go down on me again; but if he really didn’t notice anything, obviously I got away with it and don’t need to do anything. So what would you do?
An Object Lesson In the Dangers of Getting It On On the First Date
P.S. I guess it’s a good sign that he went down on me twice, actually. Or maybe he was just being polite. Like when you pretend not to notice someone’s stocking has a run in it. (Well, not EXACTLY like that, I guess ...)
Dear Object Lesson,
While I’m usually a proponent of honesty, I see no good that can come of telling him about your state during your first tryst. I don’t think I would have allowed him a second round, you know, just to be nice, but what’s done is done. It’s not cool, but it’s not fatal, either.
Anyhoo, if you have lingering doubts about your flavor that night, and would like to reassure him, do so by employing the method you used before. Slide a finger inside your vagina, and this time place it in his mouth (or yours first, then his, depending on your fancy). It’s sexy, and if he is cunni-shy (which is doubtful anyway), it should reassure him that you taste grrrrrreat!
Have a great time, just be safe and smart with body and heart.
On a side note, a thank you goes to Object Lesson for getting me hip to something I didn’t know about. I was actually not aware of sea sponge tampons so I looked ’em up. Interesting stuff. I want to mention the site here, www.lunapads.com. They offer a wide range of products that you readers might be interested in. They also have a resources section listing articles and other links to alternative menstrual products on the Web.