Well, singles, you've made it this far. You braved the brunt
of the cold, unforgiving holiday season on your own, gifting yourself with
anticlimactic Christmas presents and busying your lonely lips with a noisemaker
during the New Year's countdown. But now we've come to the penultimate test to
your single-life optimism: Valentine's Day.
Jewelry stores and florists have been taunting you for more
than a month with ads featuring happy couples, and you've stood your ground
admirably. To help you through the actual day of reckoning, we've drafted a
list of go-to activities that just might distract you from the looming prospect
of dying alone.
As you go about filling your Feb. 14 itinerary with the
options below, keep reminding yourself of the unacknowledged boons to
singledom: no significant other means no compromising, no tolerating someone
else's bodily functions, no forced niceties with his/her appallingly awkward friends
or family. We say, go forth and enjoy your detached status.
For one thing, it lacks the spotlit humiliation of dining
alone, especially if you manage to slip in just before opening credits. No one
will know your sad, dirty secret as you file out of the theater afterwards, and
you won't have to put such effort into appearing enthralled with the repetitive
pre-preview trivia. Best of all, there's no one to judge you for your guilty
pleasure movie choice. Just do yourself a favor and avoid the lovey-dovey
flicks. We're trying to accept and celebrate your singlehood here; no need to
dwell. Or, go the other route and subject yourself to 'Blue Valentine' and take comfort in the fact that at least you're not drowning in
a failed marriage.
We know — in this economy? But at this point in your
life, you have the luxury of not needing to discuss major purchases with anyone
else beforehand. And why work up expectations that he/she will get you that
thing you've been dropping hints about since October, only to be let down? If
money's tight, it doesn't need to be huge, just something that'll bring a smile
to that lonesome mug. Better yet, make a day of it. Pick a new neighborhood and browse the options. See our 2010 Shopping CityGuide for more than 100 shop local suggestions.
We've always thought that art houses
can only truly be appreciated on solo visits. There's none of that pressure to
articulate complex interpretations, no time limit per piece. You can mosey or
race through as you see fit without ever name-dropping the sporadic art history
tidbits you've scraped from the recesses of your undergrad memory. Make a day
of it, and feel smug about just how cultured you are without trying to impress
a potential mate. February's (fabulous) First Friday has come and gone, but to
celebrate the confectionary side of this miserable holiday, check out the
sweets of "Just Desserts" at Indy Indie Artist Colony.
Gather your nuptially challenged friends and take
the opportunity to bask in each others' platonic company. An at-home soiree
sounds perfect to us, but should you and your bachelor crew feel so ambitious
as to venture out on the town, Creation Cafe is hosting their annual
Anti-Valentine's Day Party on Saturday, Feb. 12, at 7 p.m. Feel free to dress
the part — all-black attire is suggested — and come prepared to
rave and lament upon relationships gone sour. Spend Valentine's evening at
Carmel's Vine & Table Gourmet Market. Cough up $15 before Feb. 13 for wine
tastings, beer, eats and prize raffles with other local singles. Not a bad way
to wile the night away.
Drown your sorrows
Maybe not our healthiest suggestion, but let's be real
— you were planning on this one anyway. It all might seem so hopeless
when you're face-to-face with a Zales ad or ambush reminder of your ex, but the
rest of the city's singles will be right there with you. Seek each other out
across a smoky bar; commiserate or copulate, who are we to judge? My editors
specifically warned me to avoid the Alley Cat for this
particular coping mechanism, an advisory that guarantees the best kind of
debauchery. If past-their-prime frat-heads and sorostitutes are more your type,
Bust out the sad
vinyls and sob in the dark
Might we suggest Jeff Buckley's Grace? It's a cliche of the best, most honest
breed, and deserves a fair chance in your healing process. Other good options
include anything by Bright Eyes if you're under the legal voting age, or The
National if you have a lick of good taste. And we'd be remiss if we failed to
mention big names of a genre that was practically born of a broken heart: soul.
Otis Redding is a guaranteed fit when only the purest form of audio empathy
once you've settled on an appropriately sorrowful soundtrack, slide into
catharsis and just let it out, man.
Manage your anger
We've all been the jilted ex-lover at one point or
another.Sometimes you just have
to give in to the rage. Thankfully, there are ways to do so that won't land you
in the clink. Combining social hour with outlets of aggression sounds neat, but
after a little sleuthing, we found that fight clubs are in fact illegal, so
that's out. We really can't condone owning your own piece, but Don's Guns (3919
Lafayette Rd.) in Indianapolis has a fantastic indoor shooting range, and we
bet they'd let you affix a headshot of your most recent other half to the
target. Have you seen Don's commercials? He seems like a pretty reasonable guy.
Being single can be hard on a body, whether you're still
nursing the wounds of a bad breakup or stuck in an eternal dry spell. You
deserve a day of frivolous relaxation. We realize this option may appear to
cater solely to the ladies, but men should not shy away from a day for
themselves. You can always reclaim your masculinity with a cheesesteak
afterward if it bothers you that much, or browse the selection of upstanding
masseuses advertising in our back pages. For those who prefer service of a less
raunchy variety, $75 will get you 60 minutes of Swedish bliss at French Pharmacie
Pharmaciein Broad Ripple.
Start sculpting your
February is the perfect time to revisit your fitness
routine, as the fair-weather gym bunnies have lost sight of their New Year's
ambitions. Who knows when you'll run into the one who did you wrong? We want
you to look your foxiest. Try the hot yoga classes at The Yoga Center in Broad
Ripple and Clay Terrace or register for the 2011 Virtual Luv Run. Excuse the
race's disgustingly saccharine name —it's for a good cause, we promise.
Across the country, participants head to their preferred running routes any
time during V-day weekend, after making a donation in a loved one's name or to
the charity of their choice. Register online
beforehand to share the endorphin-fueled love.
Get back in the
For a more lasting solution, check out the dating options
beyond your cubicle partitions. Not sure where to start? Indy-based social
some basic tips for the dating game if it's been a while. And don't discredit
online avenues; it's 2011, and we're all in the same functionally isolated rut
when it comes to interpersonal connection. Set up a Match.com or eHarmony
account, sit back and see what fish you can reel in with a Photoshopped
headshot and masterfully crafted profile. We bet you'll get more Winks than you
know what to do with, you handsome devil, you.
Whether you choose to observe the holiday in pursuit of good
health or cheap sex, don't lose hope, dear single reader. You're not alone.
Mercifully, it'll be Feb. 15 before you know it — just another wintry day
for us to shift gears from spinster's despair back into Seasonal Affected
coasting, until May brings sweet, sunny relief.