Tony 1414 As a junior high and highschool coach you couldn't be more spot on! If more parents would just be fans at school athletic events and cheer for their own student/athlete, rather than yelling at the coach, other players, or officials..... The kids wouldn't be so confused about who to listen to or even worse scared to not turn and look at their parents during the game. Parents do everything they can athletically when the child is young, but once they start competitive school athletic events, parents let the coaches do their job. Which is much easier to do if the parents have the coaches back. Even if you don't fully understand their strategy. They went to school for this, if you trust them so will your kids.
As the daughter of an athletic director and basketball and track coach, I have a few things I'd like to say. One, I love basketball. Point blank period, I excelled at it and because my dad was my coach my sister and I worked twice as hard to earn our starting positions. I played in the State Fair Arena in the state tournament which was truly a dream come true. My sister returned there the next year after I graduated and won the silver ball, the only ball ever won in school history. My dad received All State coach and had two players from that team make all state, which is practically unheard of. I was involved in many other things as well, cheerleading, FFA, student council, and I traveled the country singing. It's a blessing that I was interested in so many things, because when I blew my knee out (ACL, MCL and meniscus) I knew things would never be the same, not in basketball. I came back and played my junior and senior year, but I blew the same knee out two more times. I knew I wasn't going to the WNBA, not as a player anyway. But I also knew that my parents were proud of the effort and commitment I had shown. Just because you don't go pro doesn't mean your influence stops. I've been a basketball coach in the public school systems for ten plus years now, and to me, I get to work with the pro's everyday. Some of these kids will only make it out of the hood, or the slums, or the projects if they can get an athletic scholarship. They make the grades to be able to play. And it doesn't matter to them if it's JuCo, D3,D2,D1AA or D1A, as long as they get to go to school and get out of the way they have been living. That sounds like the pro's to me. Then if they do get drafted, hopefully they will have someone pushing them to get that degree first. Because someday they could be teaching and coaching like me. Your dreams change over the years. Now all I want is to make it into our States Coaches Hall of Fame like my father did. To thank him for always pushing me to be great at the things I chose to do, and not pushing me to do things I just didn't want to. I'm a mother now, with daughters, and as much asci would love to coach them myself someday, I won't force all the time, energy, dedication and possible injury and heartache on them. They will decide on their own and then it will be something they can be proud to own, or proud to walk away from.
There is a great deal of truth in what the good doctor has to say, but, we did what he says may be harmful. Why we did it was not to get our kids into the pro's. It was to keep them active instead of playing video games, teach them that hard work does pay off, teach them team work, teach them sacrifice. We did it as a family, not just our family but a baseball family. Both sons played in college and one in the pro's. We got luckey, but we would not trade the experience for anything.
This is a stupid article. Who are you writing it to? Someone has to make it. I'm all about reality. but you are a dream crusher. Good Luck
Ok, but if I ask question 3, and you hit me upside the head with a 2x4, how long until I'm able to play again?
My husband is a college professor who routinely tells people- if you want to continue to play in college, do it at division 3 level - because if are "lucky" enough to be recruited at division 1 level, you aren't going to college. Because you will spend 8+ hours a day in your sport, and not on academics.
Well if the DR. is correct how are we watching Pro sports? Because according to his theory Pro sports shouldn't exist .
Just because my 12 year old can throw a pitch through 6 inches of plywood certainly doesn't guarantee he will make it to the majors - but if he wants to keep playing, I will sure give it a shot . . . . . .
Great article. I am a father that has daughters on travel teams who knows full well that they will never become professionals. If it helps them to develop among other life experiences into productive adults , mission accomplished. We were way this past weekend at tournament while my daughters friends were at the beach drinking. I will take the travel team over that any day.
If the governor of this state thinks he has done positive things for Indiana he has problems with his thinking. His discriminatory thought process had and continues to have large corporations question if they want to conduct business in Indiana. As a minority in this state I question if the governor represents my interest, reading some of his past statements I would have to say he does not. As a state we are currently paying a firm in New York to assist him in restoring is public image if he truly felt he has done such a great job tax dollars would not need to be used in such a manner. At this point I do not see myself voting for a second term for our current governor.
If Governor Pence wants Indiana to continue in the hands of a Republican governor, he should resign now. If he wants Indiana to succeed, perhaps he should continue running because it is likely a democrat would win. It is obvious from his press release that he hasn't a clue – about anything!
I hope this "plan for Indiana" have nothing to do with the surplus military vehicles acquired by some of the police forces lol.
are working, why would anyone want to stop it? I don't understand this way of thinking from the Republic party. It makes zero sense what-so-ever!
His plan is working so well, that we now have to pay more than $750,000 to a New York City PR firm to restore our image. Go ahead, through good money after bad.
Guess were still stuck in elementary school? When it Pence going to take RESPONSIBILITY FOR HIS OWN ACTIONS?!
If you find yourself as a parent after every game stating " Wow what are great game, and inning 3, but head on into the segway BUT, .........." Just as you did as a child, they only remember everything after the but. Save the but, .....gain the condifence of the relationship with your kids through sports.
When they quit cleaning and packing their equipment, its over. The lesson is gone. Time to find a ranch or water rapids as stated.
Every child with the wrong parent will sit the bench, Johnny is AAA now. And a failure woth no confidence.
Sports are good in many ways as there are penalties and the line in the sand for good behavior moves at home but a yellow flag and yellow card is still thrown, Thank God.
Early in life coaching is fun. Up to 11-12, then let the coach coach, let your child play at a level to gaim confidence and be challenged, but time to coach a relationship at 12 on, thats the challenge before you.
I worked with a guy who's daughter wanted to figure skate. He took her to competitions and even hired a private coach. Then one year she decided she wanted to play ringete ( a sport similar to hockey). He was a little disappointed but it was her choice and he was okay.
One thing you hear up here (Canada) is not so much the pros with hockey but the scholarship to college.
Thank you for this article. We too did the club basketball and high school basketball thing for my daughter. She was so passionate about the sport and incredibly disciplined. Neither her father nor I played basketball. We felt the pressure to let her play the travel leagues, because there was an unspoken understanding that if your child didn't play travel league, she wasn't going to make the high school team. We had one month a year off from tournaments. We paid for a trainer outside of school practices, because my daughter wanted to play in college. She did, in fact earn a basketball scholarship, but it was peanuts compared to the academic scholarships she received. And then she decided her first semester of college that she actually wanted to have a life and quit basketball due to burnout. We have a younger son who loves soccer but we did not have the time or money for another travel team. He was at a disadvantage when it came time to try out for the high school team and didn't make it. You know what, he survived, and has focused on academics and plays intramurally. We have dinner together most week nights and have more quality time together. We can actually take vacations where we WANT to go, not just where the team is playing. My son is just fine, and I don't feel for a second that he will any less successful because he's not on his high school soccer team. When I see that club leagues are now becoming the norm for 7 and 8 year olds, it makes me cringe. For Pete's sake, let your kids be kids!
If all parents had your attitude there would be no one playing in the pros. Not really, but the level of play would be much lower. There is not a single professional athlete that did not work hard everyday of the year from a young age. Talent alone does not get you there. Ask any pro!
great article! I remember years ago going to tuck my 7 year old son into bed and he was crying - when I asked what was wrong he said " I wasn't picked for the team". I said you're on the team! (Meaning the rec league team) . He said " no mommy, there's another team for all the best players and I wasn't picked for it". I then learned about the world of daddy organized and daddy driven "elite/travel ball."
I think it's mostly about ego and false pride. Sad in a lot of ways. Thanks again for the article.
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