The answer to this was simply awesome.
This is an article that will, at least, partially resonate with parents that care. I long for a day when life was simpler as it once was and I recognize times when chasing athletic schedules seems insane. Of course, most of us know other sides, as well.
The inclusion gained from team sports cannot be overstated. In this world of radicalized and degnereative behavior being more normalized each year, sports can be an outlet for a child, as well as, insulation from the electronic crap that bludgeons us all. I have had the opportunity to bond with my kids, going on long drives, early on weekend mornings that I will never forget. As to "club" sports, they offer great life lessons to our kids. First, if approached properly, they are a chance for a kid to learn that they must earn a spot and playing time without the influence of mommy and daddy. It, also, may give a kid a chance to keep playing in a different environment, where a local experience had soured due to parental influence to the point they would have quit something they love before recognizing their potential. There are so many reasons that these situations are positive that I can't help but think that the author is dwelling on the extremes he has experienced, only.
I loved this article and couldn't agree more with you... until the last paragraph. You are "certain" that you will "raise self-reliant kids, who will hang out with me when I'm older, remember my birthday, care for their mother, take me to lunch and the movies, buy me club level seats at Yankee Stadium on occasion, call me at least four times a week and let me in on all the good things in their life". Being a great and supportive parent who has family dinners every night, who doesn't push their child at sports, who emphasizes and values education and who takes family rips to the Grand Canyon does not ensure having children like you described, any more that being the star of Little League ensures the that you will play in the Majors. I don't know if you have grown children yet, Dr. Profeta, but the chances of them calling you four times a week is, in the words of the above commentator who quoted Arthur Ashe, "slim to none." And that is coming from me, a daughter who calls her 80 year old mother every day, and often multiple times a day!!! But if there is one thing I am certain of, it is that there is no certainty how our children will turn out. I think you spoiled an otherwise great article with your smug tone in the last paragraph, Dr. Profeta.
This is precisely why I started Slow Family Living with Dr. Carrie Contey! To give people permission to step back from it all and really look at family life with a lens that is not clouded by society's SHOULDS. People are afraid their children will be left behind, but if we really connect, and have fun as a family, their ability to survive and THRIVE in this world will be greater. Slow down, connect, create more joy!
If you'd like to see a city that does pubic sculpture and leisure activity right, look at Loveland, Colorado's park system.
As a mom who would like to have her daughters participate in sports for fun and to be part of a team, I really appreciate this article. I find it frustrating that so many parents have ramped up the level of competition. If your child wants to start a sport at age 10 it's hard to find a place for them to play for fun. Especially since all of the other kids have been playing since they were 5 years old.
For those who are arguing with this article - I think you're missing the point. It's not that there are no children who ever make it at professional athletes, it's that the odds are about the same as winning the lottery. And at what cost to the child?
A dose of reality in this era of hyper-parenting!
BTW, for those making comments, please omit the name calling. Just because you disagree with someone, doesn't justify calling him/her an "idiot" (or worse).
In my mind, name calling totally discredits the writer.
I love your writing style, making points with humor, exaggeration, sarcasm, and contradiction. I especially like the fact that you break your thoughts into separate, short paragraphs.
Some of your critics write a single, unreadable paragraph consisting of 500 words of unorganized thoughts.
Keep up the good work.
"But if he did nothing else, the man would deserve enormous credit for having navigated the city through the worst economic downturn since the Great Depression — and managing to preside over an extraordinary downtown building boom in the process."
Really, you want to give him credit for bankrupting the future of the city, by transferring wealth from the future to the present, by transferring wealth from the many to the few, so that certain people can continue to live in their mansions and so the selfish millennials can have their playthings. Do you really believe that this local Debt Ponzi scheme is really beneficial to the general public? Real public services will continue to decline (even with the nearly half billion dollar water company theft, the street/ sidewalk infrastructure is abysmal), while this criminal enterprise prospers. Where I come from Ponzi schemes are crimes and result in arrests. But in Indiana, crime truly does pay, and it pays big.
I just want my kid to be happy and healthy. If he wants to play sports, that's fine. If he wants to be in chess club, that's fine too. If he just wants to play with other kids and they make up the rules as they go along, that's fine too. Just as long as he's happy and healthy. There's enough competition in our lifetime., sometimes it's ok to just be normal.
Addendum: I would like to add that the reason I say that it's not women's job to fix this, is because we are not the ones with the power in this industry dynamic. Asking those with the least amount of power to fix the problems that keep them with the least amount of power is not a workable solution.
There are more women than ever making music and DJing and being a part of electronic music, but we're still not seeing large numbers of women at the top. And that's the part that is up to promoters and labels to help with: seek out talent, look outside of your peer group (which, if you're male, is just more likely to be made up of men), and realize that larger societal biases affect our perception of talent and competence to a negative degree. Intentionally work to fix this and don't think it will just fix itself, because it hasn't and it won't.
There are some great suggestions at www.diversifyourmusic.com. :)
We all come from different places in life. My parents never even considered getting involved in organized youth sports. We played with the other kids in the neighborhood.
I remember going to the park many times and watching the other kids play little league and learn how to play baseball. I envied them having their fathers involved in their lives.
Sometimes now I wonder if my father cared more than we were aware of. He let us be ourselves and learn to interact with others with no adults around. We policed ourselves and helped each other. I thought I was missing out on something but I think the freedom we had has helped us think critically and be resourceful independent people.
I do think we needed more involvement from our dad so there must be a balance some where. I think because of my upbringing I wanted my kids to do every organized activity they wanted to do. And we did! Baseball, hockey, soccer, basketball. I think it has gone too far the other way, kids need time to interact with each other with no adults around hovering over them. About a holler away is a good distance!
My wife just forwarded me this article, and I am not sure why. Our kids are mid level players on lower level "select" soccer teams. No one in our family, certainly not our kids, think they are anywhere near pro quality. Instead, our kids play soccer to get some exercise (our reason) and to have fun (their reason). We regularly miss games and tournaments due to family activities. So, why did she send it to me? Maybe so we can have a private laugh at the parents who believe their kids will get a scholarship some day???
My problem with the article is that everyone's dreams are based on long odds. My entering class in a very top law school school had 140 seats. Many aspiring lawyers didn't make it. Most of my friends did not. Some went to lower rated law schools, others followed their interest in government and obtained Master's degrees in public administration and such. But most are working in the general field of law, politics and government. The desire to get into law school still propelled them to similar successfull careers.
Turning back to the subject, if I was to guess at possible careers for my kids (now in middle school), while the MLS is not in the picture, being a high school PE teacher or coach certainly would be. They love the sport and want to continue it at some level.
this quote sums it up best. "there is 42 billion available for academic scholarships and 1 billion for athletic scholarships. do the math....then do you homework!"
Another privileged white man bitching about racism. Fuck you.
Uh SOI.....he was not saying no one who reads the article's kid would not make the pros. He was saying the odds of any one kid making it is staggeringly against. Let me make it simple for you. Let's say the odds of any young athlete ever cashing a paycheck as a pro is 1000-1 (I'm sure it is much higher but let's just keep the math simple.) Let's say the good docs pension is a cool million. If he bet 1000 random delusional parents he would come out $999,000,000 to the good. Isn't math fun?
Putting a dollop ("dollop", that's right, I said it) of lube in the tip of the condom before rolling it over the head can also help enhance the wearer's comfort/sensation.
Everyone should watch:
10 Rules for Dealing with Police
The key phrase to remember is:
"Officer are you detaining me or am I free to go?"
Had our hapless Taser-victim asked this question clearly, he likely could have ended this encounter peacefully in the first minute. Unclear communications leaves you in a state of unwittingly voluntarily submitting to prolonged encounters.
My Italian friend drives with a white T-shirt with a black diagonal stripe that LOOKS like a seatbelt. That's how Italians show the finger.
When seatbelt violations first came into law they were secondary. You couldn't be pulled over for it, but they could add it on to other charges. It wasn't until later they became primary. In my old hometown there are officers now that do nothing but sit near the busiest intersections with binoculars and watch for seatbelts and run down offenders. It's a bottomless easy revenue stream for them.
It's also nothing new that cops carry around a stack of BOLO notices. There's bound to be a fuzzy sketch of someone in that stack that looks like you, and they can use that as the reason to question you and run your information through their computer.
Most states I believe specify that you have to supply identification on request. It doesn't mean you have to present a photo ID. Stating your name, address, and date of birth satisfies the request. These cops got all hung up on getting a photo ID that I don't think they actually were entitled to.
Website powered by Foundation