I find myself in the most boring of straight white girl pickles: My boyfriend is dragging his feet on proposing. I’m 29, and he’s 31. We’ve been dating for three years. Things are great. We talk about our future a lot — buying a house, vacations, blah blah blah. Lack of proposal aside, we’re solid. But I would hate to waste another year in this city for this guy when I could have been working toward tenure somewhere else. (I’m in academia.) I’ve tried bringing this up to him several times with no concrete results.
Really Into Not Going Solo
Propose to him, RINGS. Don’t informally propose a formal proposal — don’t ask him to ask you to marry him — but go get a ring (for him) and ask him to marry you (for fuck’s sake). You have the power to pop the question and call it at the same time. Good luck, I hope he says yes.
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